Your Love Counts: A Guide to Supporting a Spouse with Depression

And behind that person — quietly holding things together, showing up when there are no answers, loving someone through a storm they did not choose — is a caregiver. This book is for them.

When his wife was diagnosed with depression in 2021, Pastor Moses Ling Teck Fung was in the middle of leading his congregation through one of the most meaningful productions of the year — playing the role of Jesus in an Easter drama. That same week, the world inside his home began to quietly unravel. Your Love Counts is the honest, deeply personal account of what followed: five years of dark living rooms before dawn, unanswered prayers, school runs completed in exhaustion, and the daily decision to keep choosing his wife when everything felt impossible.

This is not a clinical guide. It is not written from a distance. It is written by a husband who lived it — who got it wrong more times than he got it right, who stepped away from his pulpit, who asked God to take his life, and who kept showing up anyway.

Inside this book, you will find:

• Honest, practical guidance for loving a spouse through depression

• How to communicate when words fail and good intentions are misread

• How to protect your own heart, faith, and identity as a caregiver

• How to navigate the tension of being a parent while your home is in crisis

• How to hold on to faith when God feels silent and the prayers go unanswered

• A Caregiver’s Practical Toolkit with real, actionable steps for every season

• A message of hope — not theoretical, but lived and tested

Your Love Counts speaks honestly about despair, guilt, doubt, and helplessness — while offering something many caregivers desperately need: the voice of someone who has been where you are, and can tell you that the road you are on leads somewhere worth going.

Whether you are in the early days of a diagnosis, deep in an exhausting season, or simply searching for someone who understands — this book will remind you that your presence, your patience, and your love matter far more than you currently know.

Your love counts. Even now. Even here. Even in this.

Foreword by Dr. Yap Chin Hong, Consultant Psychiatrist.

Endorsed by Dr. Bernard Ting (Consultant Psychiatrist), Amy Yao M.Clin.Psych. (Clinical Psychologist), Rev. Charles Tiew (SCAC Elder), and Rev. Calvin Lee (Licensed Counsellor).