It was late, his phone lit up on the nightstand, and you picked it up.
Since that night you have not slept through. You check his location, you ask the same questions at two in the morning, and you swing between rage and a calm that scares you more than the rage. Everyone has an opinion about whether you should stay. Nobody has asked how you are breathing.
The Night I Read His Phone is written for the betrayed wife, not for the marriage and not for him. Agatha Tonka walks with you through the first night, the first weeks and the first year after an affair, alongside women at every point on that road, and names what the research says about betrayal trauma, disclosure and repair.
You will learn why your body is reacting this way and how to get through the next week, how much truth to ask for and how to ask, what real repair would require of him, how to protect your health, your money and your children, and how to decide whether to stay or go when you are ready, not before.
This book does not tell you which way to choose. It helps you choose.
Agatha Tonka writes about the agreeable woman in rooms with other people. Her books are about family, work and obligation, and the quiet way one person in a room gets volunteered before anybody thinks to ask her. She writes in composites, and she offers the sentence nobody has said back to you yet.